Patsy's Sister Pam Paugh
The book was originally intended to be a place for friends to speak out, but when Patsy's sisters heard about it, they wanted to be included so in Chapter 4, there is a lot from Pam and Paulette. Clearly they supported their sister and John. I will pick a few lines to share.

Pam said,
"Did we argue like most siblings? No. But it wasn't because I didn't try. It's just that it takes two to argue and Patsy wouldn't. From childhood she's been one of those peacemakers who seem to have the ability to calm a storm. I can't remember hearing her yell; I have often envied her inner peace. She is more than just polite; she doesn't like to see anyone upset and would rather give in than fight."

There are pages of memories, she clearly loved her sister, not just as a sister but as a friend.

On John, Pam writes, "He is non-judgemental, he is fair; he always looks for the positives in other people." "WE have gone through the best of times and the worst of times and I have witnessed what a truly remarkable man he is." "... a thoughtful and caring man."

She ends describing Patsy as "... the daughter every mother wishes she had, the wife every man dreams of, the mother every child deserves."
Setting the stage. The story is being told by Pam Paugh - she is talking about the time of Beth's death. Seems the Ramsey group planned a trip to ski over the holidays -- Melinda and JAR would join John, Patsy, Burke, JonBenet and Patsy's family as well. Word got to Patsy that Cindy, Lucinda, John's first wife and the mother of Melinda and JAR, would he home alone for the holiday. Patsy wouldn't have it, insisted Cindy join them all in Colorado for Christmas.


"I remember seeing the two of them standing in the dining room gazing out the window at the freshly fallen snow. Cindy was crying and Patsy was offering comfort. I heard her say to Cindy, "We will get through this together." And my eyes filled to see such compassion."
JonBenét's aunt speaks

Pam Paugh of Atlanta expresses confidence in Boulder District Attorney Alex Hunter and the Boulder police

By Gary Schneider
Cox News Service

The family of JonBenet Ramsey welcomes the upcoming grand jury probe into the girl's slaying, expecting it will shift attention from the girl's parents to finding the true killers, said the girl's aunt.

"We want to know who killed our baby - wouldn't you?," said Pam Paugh, the 39-year-old sister of Patsy Ramsey, JonBenet's mother.

Paugh, of metro Atlanta, said she spoke to her sister by phone this week. The Ramseys, who now live in Atlanta, were on vacation. But Paugh said the case is always on their minds. "They are making it hour-by-hour," she said.

Prosecutors have declined to say when the Boulder grand jury could hear the case, but it could begin next month.

Paugh said she has spoken to authorities several times and has been told she will be called to testify. She is eager to do so.

" I think the things that need to be looked at will come to light for the grand jurors. They will say, 'That doesn't jibe. Go after that one, or go look that this further. ' "

She expressed confidence in Boulder District Attorney Alex Hunter and Boulder police. Paugh has her own theory and list of three suspects, whom she would not identify. None are family members.

She believes the killer is "almost a genius mastermind," someone who knew the family well, who perhaps was jealous of their closeness and success.

Paugh is a department store make-up artist who applied JonBenet's makeup for several child beauty pageants. Her home has many photos and keepsakes of the girl, who was 6 when she was found beaten and strangled in the basement of her family's Boulder home Dec. 26, 1996.

Paugh knows some may view her statements as a calculated move, coming just before the grand jury meets. "There will always be naysayers. God knows the truth," she said. She is promoting a book supportive of Patsy Ramsey called "JonBenet's Mother: The Tragedy and the Truth." It includes quotations from Patsy Ramsey's friends.

John and Patsy Ramsey, she said, remain devastated by their loss, a tragedy compounded by the swirl of media attention and speculation. About Patsy, she said, "You can get to a point when you're so broken and so beaten, that no matter how hard they kick, you almost don't feel it anymore."

Paugh has lost patience with some in the media: "If Geraldo Rivera calls my sister a murderer one more time, I will probably lose my mind."

When she visited JonBenet's grave on the girl's birthday, she said, she found a small tape recorder under the bench near the grave.

"The first tragedy is that someone, or some group, has murdered my niece, brutally, heinously," she said. "The second tragedy is the whirlwind around this event, if you can call it that. Speculation is a terrible, terrible thing.

August 28, 1998

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